How your baby’s growing
Your baby now understands simple instructions, though she may purposely choose to ignore you when you say “no.” (To help the word carry a little more weight, use it sparingly, for setting important limits.)
Even though your baby may not always remember tomorrow what you’ve said today, it’s not too soon to set certain boundaries and start teaching her some important distinctions, like right from wrong and safe from unsafe.
How your life’s changing
Your personality has changed since having a baby, and you may be wondering how much you should integrate your parent self with your workplace self from nine to five. The answer depends largely on the culture or style of your particular workplace. Look around and observe how other mums or dads handle this matter, and let their example guide you. Do supervisors display family photos? Do many parents take advantage of options like flextime?
You may need to take time off or limit the hours you work because of your baby. In weighing which priority – baby or job – takes precedence in a given situation, it’s best to take into account the flexibility of your workplace, total time off available, and your childcare arrangement. When your baby is sick, you may prefer to be with her yourself, while letting your spouse or carer handle routine checkups, for example. Or you may decide you want to be there for all doctor visits, but try to arrange them for after work in order to minimize time away from your job.
Then, instead of focusing on the time you can’t be at work, think about how to more efficiently use the time you do spend there. Consider keeping regular to-do lists, working through lunch instead of staying late, and eliminating as much personal activity at work as possible.
Quick tip: Distraction during diaper-changing
“My son loves the telephone. He actually puts it up to his ear and talks into it. When we change his diaper, we just give him the phone to talk to and the hassles are over!” — Divisha