8-Month-First Week (33weeks)
How your baby’s growing
Your baby’s likely to be mobile soon if she isn’t already so it’s vital that your home is toddler-proof. You’ll also notice she’s becoming more assertive and beginning to express her likes and dislikes. Take a toy away from her and she’ll probably object loudly. She’s also likely to protest if you leave her too long, thanks to the onset of separation anxiety. This is the time when your baby starts showing extreme attachment to you and her regular carers and an intense dislike for everyone else.
How your life’s changing
A baby can be a handful, especially for first-time parents, but it’s important that the two of you have time alone so your relationship stays strong. Many new parents report that after the novelty of life with a baby wears off, they find they’ve drifted away from their spouse and lost the closeness they once felt. Having a baby is a seismic event in a couple’s life together. Because the brunt of the day-to-day adjustment often falls more on one partner (typically the mum), it’s all too easy to start feeling estranged.
Acknowledging these feelings is the first step to doing something about it. Let your partner know that you recognise how much attention and time you devote to your baby (and that he may feel left out) and that you miss him. If you’re feeling this way, it’s likely that your partner is, too, and will be relieved that you’re bringing it up.
Try to make time for each other and keep the lines of communication open.
Make a specific plan to find ways to spend more time together. Figure out what you miss most about being together and make reclaiming those experiences a priority. Schedule time to spend together, even if it’s only at home.
Re-evaluate, now that your baby is older, ways to divvy up infant care and housework. Not only does this reduce your workload, it creates more time for you and your partner to spend together doing something fun. You’ll also see yourselves working as a team.
Parent tip: Crying baby? Try the tube
“If your baby cries at night, cuddle, watch some late-night TV and try to enjoy the time together. If you can relax, she’ll probably do so too.” – Sanchita