5-Month-First Week (21weeks old)
How your baby’s growing
You’ve probably noticed that your baby’s becoming really sociable lately. Not only will he tolerate attention from others, he may even initiate it. He thrives on your attention and is learning how to get even more of it. As he masters more physical skills, from lifting his head and shoulders off the ground to extending his arms and legs and arching his back, you’ll find your baby seeks your attention by wriggling or making noises before crying. Over the next three months, your baby will develop his own way of letting you know what he thinks, wants and needs.
How your life’s changing
Has parenthood turned your relationship with your spouse upside down and inside out? You’re not alone. Parenthood affects every aspect of your relationship from sex, redistributing household tasks or finding out how to set your priorities, most couples find it takes time to adjust.
Finding the time and energy for sex as new parents is challenging enough. And then there’s the small matter of the third party in your room or down the hall, ready to wail at the least opportune moment. But with a little planning and effort, anything is possible!
- Flirt. Flirting isn’t the same as foreplay. It’s sexual play without the intention of immediate sexual activity. Flirting with your spouse (in person, on the phone, or by e-mail, for example) helps both of you get in the mood.
- Time it right. You don’t always have to “sleep when the baby sleeps.” At nap time or bedtime after your baby’s had a busy session of play or outside activity, you can feel pretty assured that your baby will sleep for at least an hour.
- Make a “date.” You don’t have to dress up and go out — simply plan ahead to stay in. When you’re parents, sharing massages or taking a shower together while the baby sleeps count as dates.
- Keep a sense of humour. Be ready for things not to go as usual. If you’re breastfeeding, for instance, you may see some milk leak or spray (so have a towel handy). If your baby does start to cry, don’t rush to her rescue; wait a few minutes to see if she settles back to sleep. If she does settle down, you may find that the mood has been broken anyway. Don’t call the whole thing off. Start back with slow, gentle foreplay and see what happens.