20 weeks oldbabycare
4-Month-Fourth Week (20 weeks)
How your baby’s growing
Following a well-established nighttime routine may help settle your baby to sleep. Feed her, give her a bath, put her in her pajamas, play a game, read her a book, sing songs or play some music, then put her down.
Having a set routine will give you and your baby plenty of time to connect and wind down. You may decide to alternate going-to-bed activities with your husband (you do the bath, he reads the story, and so on). Or, to give both of you a regular break, try taking turns, with one person responsible for putting your baby to bed each night.
How your life’s changing
After the intensity of adjusting to life with a new baby, many parents reach a point where they find they’re like ostriches lifting their heads out of the sand to discover a wider world out there – the one they took leave of, temporarily, after the birth. The endlessness of baby care can also be very different from the pace at work if you were used to a busy job or lots of adult interaction.
Six ways to restore a little balance:
1. Find friends with babies your age. Find friends with babies around your age in and around your neighbourhood with whom you can not just bond but also help each other out in times of need.
2. Spend some time by yourself. Make sure you take a proper break – a chance to relax and focus on yourself – at least once a week. Ideally, find half an hour just for you each day, maybe at nap time. It’s easier said than done when you have a new baby but some time to yourself can make a big difference.
3. Read. Keep a book or magazine handy for those times when your baby naps. Even if it’s just reading a few pages a day, you can “escape” to a world of fiction or learn something new.
4. Start a blog or a diary. Whether you choose to make your observations public or keep them private is up to you — simply recording them is a way to preserve your sanity.
5. Have an adult conversation. Whether it is over the phone or in person, chatting with a friend, relative or your spouse can re-energize you, especially if you steer clear of baby-related topics.